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In this edition:

Mr Creece on Long Service Leave

Please note that I will be on Long Service Leave for the last two weeks of Term 3 and will return to duty on the first day of Term 4. Our Assistant Principal, Ms Sue Richards will also be on Long Service Leave for the last three weeks of this term.

The keys to the car will be given over to Mr Bruce Wood, Miss Simone Weidner and Mr Zane Moylan who will all deputise in Sue and Noel's absence.

I want to wish the entire Lara Lake Primary School community a safe and happy break when the time comes and cannot wait to come back fresh as a daisy to see all of those wonderful, bright and happy faces on day 1, Term 4.

Good luck everybody - may the sun all shine down on you.

Pupil Free Day on Friday This Week

Please remember that there is a pupil free day this Friday as the staff learn about CPR and Anaphylaxis. Some staff will also do some training on updating their asthma skills.

All of this is designed to make sure your children are as safe and secure as can be with the latest updates in medical procedures such as these. Our staff take the responsibility of keeping your children safe very seriously and we need days like these to ensure our training stays sharp. We want to be able to respond appropriately should an emergency ever occur.

We thank the school community for supporting our training. 

Key Dates

  • Friday, September 4: Pupil Free Day (Anaphylaxis Training for Staff)
  • Friday, September 11: Department Assemblies at 2:45pm
  • Friday, September 18: Whole School Assembly at 1:35pm
  • Friday, September 18: Last Day of Term 3 (early dismissal at 2:30pm)
  • Monday, October 5: First Day of Term 4

Exploring Emotions

Emotions are now part of the parenting and educational mainstream. For some time they've been relegated as a sideshow to the main events of discipline, confidence building, character building, and lately, resilience. Not now.

The recently released movie "Inside Out" gives life to emotions in a fun, accessible way. It's a wonderful demonstration of why we must put emotional intelligence front and centre in our parenting and teaching. The quickest pathway to happiness and success is the acceptance and recognition of feelings.

This is not a new idea. Over 2,000 years ago Socrates reminded his Greek compatriots, "Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all."

Current day muse Dr. Marc Brackett, Director of the Yale Centre for Emotional Intelligence is more expansive. He says, "Emotions matter as they drive learning, decision-making, creativity, relationships, and health."

This is not to say that we ignore children's poor behaviour, neglect to set limits or not ask anything of them when they've experienced hardship at school. Accepting and recognising emotions is an added layer in our interactions with kids, which may well be the missing link in building cooperation, connection and resilience.

Emotions are messy. They can be loud. They can be hidden. They so often interrupt our well-organised schedules. "What do you mean you're sad? We're off to watch a movie. It's a happy time!" Emotions are hard to control and difficult to see. Like slippery eels swimming in a dam, you know that they are down there somewhere but it's hard to figure out just what they are doing.

It's a wonder parents haven't smartened up to emotions earlier because 'good parenting' is hard emotional labour. When your three-year old throws a tantrum in a supermarket and all you can do is grin and bear it (rather than throwing your own tantrum or doing what you really feel like which is disowning your own child!) you're doing hard emotional labour.

When you console and contain the hurt of a primary school aged child who throws himself at your feet howling that everyone hates him, you are doing emotional labour.

Staring down a teenager who looks you straight in the eye while spitting out "I hate you!" because you've denied their request to go out is hard emotional labour. Parents do emotional labour all the time. That's one of the reasons its so draining.

Accepting kids' emotions mean we need to listen to them. We need to be mindful of their feelings as well as their behaviours and thoughts, which is what most parents and teachers are conditioned to do. We've built a broad vocabulary around behaviour management featuring terms such as consequences, limits and boundaries, and time-out to name a few. And the perennial 'To smack or not to smack' question shows we are very willing to have debates about behaviour management methods, but discussions about emotional management are few and far between.

The limits of many parents' emotional vocabularies are matched by the limitations in method as well. Most parents when asked can provide plenty of ways to raise a well-behaved child but I suspect many would struggle if asked to name three or more ways to build their children's emotional smarts. This is not a criticism but an acknowledgement of lack of training in the area.

Ask yourself, "Who taught you how to recognise, manage and regulate your emotions?" If you answered your parents then lucky you. They've given you the tools you need to have successful relationships, to maximise your earning potential (I kid you not) and to behave like a champ, not a chump, when playing sport and participating in other competitive or high performance activities. If you were able to identify any adult who taught you emotional intelligence then I suspect you are in rare company. My guess is you probably couldn't identify anyone, so your emotional intelligence (if you've read this far you have the emotional smarts needed for focus, self control and concentration) is unconscious, rather than conscious, making it hard to teach or pass on emotional intelligence skills to kids.

So where do we start? Here are five ideas to help you explore the alien landscape of kids' emotions, the new frontier of parenting:

1. Listen First

When your child fusses and fumes about some wrong-doing or hurt they've experienced clear your mind and listen. Avoid trying to fix the situation just show understanding and compassion. There is no better feeling then being understood.

2. Contain rather than manage (let your kids do the managing)

Children's behaviour can become tangled up in upsets and disappointments. It's hard to separate their behaviour from their feelings. Sometimes as a loving, caring adult you just have to soak up their feelings, and give them the time and space to soothe their own souls. We don't have to do that for them.

3. Know that emotions can be pleasant and unpleasant

We often place value judgements on emotions by saying some emotions are good or positive (happy, motivated, energised) while some are bad or negative (sad, worried, sullen). Avoid passing judgement in such ways. Recognise that emotions are pleasant or unpleasant and that all emotions are acceptable, whereas some behaviours (such as hurting someone when you are angry) are unacceptable.

4. Build a vocabulary around emotions

Just as feelings have names, there are terms for the emotional intelligent parenting method. For instance, I-messages* are a type of communication used by parents and adults who take an emotions-first approach.

5. Help your kids recognise, then regulate emotions

Ever told a child to calm down only to see their emotions escalate? Kids, like adults, need to recognise their feelings before they can regulate their emotional state, and that's not easy. Emotional recognition is a complex process that takes practice. Even when we are good at it we don't always get it right. Learning to recognise your feelings is a continuous process that's best started when young, before the ups and downs of adolescence becomes a reality.

Emotional intelligence is best learned when it becomes part of your family's culture, or way of doing things. When it becomes part of your family's DNA then emotional intelligence will be passed down from generation to generation. You'll know it's had generational impact when your children identify you as the person who trained them in the skills of emotional intelligence. How cool is that!

Current News

28/08/2015 - 1:05pm

Whooping Cough
A parent has ben diagnosed with whooping cough. The family's children have visited the doctor to commence a course of antibiotics. We wish to alert you that whooping cough is...

Division Athletics Carnival-Selected Students

28/08/2015 - 12:59pm

Selected Grade 3-6 students will have received a note to attend the Division Athletics Carnival at Goldsworthy.
Students compete in age and gender groups in a range of athletic sports...

Maths Day

28/08/2015 - 12:55pm

The Maths Curriculum Team are proud to announce that we are having a MATHS day on Thursday September 3rd to remind ourselves how important and fun Maths can be.
Each class will use a Maths...

KidsLinks Trivia Night - Tickets Available

28/08/2015 - 12:29pm

KidsLinks Trivia night tickets are on sale now. $15.00 per person.
Get in quick before they run out.
Limited tables.

Trivia Night Donation Request

21/08/2015 - 2:02pm

Dear Parents,
If you own your own business or you perhaps work for a large corporation that might be willing to help us, we would love you to organise a donation suitable for our Trivia...

Corio Norlane Lions Club Computer Project

21/08/2015 - 12:57pm

Do you have a desktop computer at home? If NO, contact the school and they will arrange to get one for you through our Computer Project. • Desktop Computer (Laptops are scarce) • Windows 8, Office...

Corio Norlane Lions Club Bike Project

21/08/2015 - 12:52pm

Do you have a bicycle at home that is no longer used and you don’t know what to do with it?
We will
• Collect
• Clean
• Repair
• Donate to needy children

Kids Links Trivia Night Invitation

21/08/2015 - 12:49pm

Save the date: Friday 30th October
The Kids Links Committee invite you to attend our Lara Lake Primary School Trivia Night.
Where: Lara Community Centre, Waverley Road

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